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Using Love Instead of Hate: Overcoming Negative Emotions for Greater Progress

There are two dominant and powerful driving forces to create change and motivation for progress: Hatred and Love. Both are influential and have the potential to prevail. I have two negative emotions that people would perceive wrong. Impatient and anger is my abundance. I need a different outlook and an unfamiliar perspective to no longer allow them to be vices, but virtues. Any emotion directed at a person is a negative emotion, even happiness. If I am happy with a person, they must continue to make me happy to maintain a positive relationship. Be happy with the conditions appropriate for happiness and not the person. We have been programmed by ungodly religious to think. The Christians say love the person, hate the sin.


I say mind your business and judge not., lest ye be judged. This is concept is called ethical mindfulness posturing. It is hypocritical and unethical to hate someone else sin. It requires a focus on their sin, rather than your own. The old way was a tool of risk management, a scapegoat from dealing with the innate ability to judge people. The difference between risk management and ethical mindfulness posturing is that risk management is a requirement of ethical mindfulness. With risk management, it is imperative to eliminate any risk that may lead to unethical practice. Koocher and Keith-Spiegel (2016) mention that avoiding ethical complaints may be impossible, but there are preventive measures and practices you can execute to reduce the chances of an incident. This is risk management. Being mindful of unethical possibilities is a matter of determining what is right and wrong or what is just and unjust within the self.


Imagine using the power of both emotions to energize change. Imagine the relative perspective of hatred in that hatred is a powerful tool when directed at a problem, rather than a person. The current narrative is more love, less hate. I say more love and more hate. Love the person and hate their ways. The positivity that can breed from the use of both driving forces, love and hate working together.

·       To any foreign and domestic terrorist, I love you, but I hate the way you think.

·       To my brothers and sisters in the KKK, I love you, but I hate the way you think.

·       To my black brothers and sisters who kill, steal, and destroy, I love you, but I hate the way you think.


We cannot experience the richness of the black culture when it has been destroyed or integrated into American culture. True equality is not cultural blending but accepting and loving the uniqueness of all individuals. The worse of the black-on-black crimes is the lack of cohesion and community. We hate the sight of one another. We are unconscious of the tragedies of our being.


There is an abundance of opportunity for change in Atlanta. It is the starting point of amazing hope, peace, and Love. Every broken brick can be used to rebuild a new building. We just need the right architects, the right contractors, and the right builders. These right people are not focused on their economic development, but that of the community, both physically and mentally. Developing minds, hearts, and souls while developing the sidewalk, businesses, and homes that change lives in. We have an abundance of chances.

Here are two new chances to right the wrong:


Program Accountability Committee - a result-based committee that controls the flow of funding to programs based on the program's success and not popularity. Using strategic benchmarking, the committee will assess the continuous growth and development of the organization. Any program outside of compliance will be penalized on a three-strike rule. After three strikes, all government funding will be revoked permanently.


Neighborhood Alliance Committee - a liaison from each street of each neighborhood who reports all issues and problems in the neighborhood. The NAC provides insight and assistance to other communities in need, such as voting on issue that benefit the welfare of


Koocher, G., & Keith-Spiegel, P. (2016). Ethics in psychology and the mental health professions: standards and cases (Fourth Edition). Oxford University Press.

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